It’s been a month.
And I say that in the way that many people say “Ugh, it’s been a day” or “one of those days” or “I’m glad this day is over.”
Because, friends, it has been a month.
I won’t go into detail about absolutely everything that has ailed me the past few weeks, I will offer up a pearl of wisdom that was shared with me several days ago.
You will get shit wrong.
I resisted this idea for a long time. Years, in fact. Someone (a boss, a mentor, a peer) would offer feedback, and I would immediately defend myself. “I did it this way because…” or “No one showed me that…”
You know what I mean.
I did that a lot.
I really would like to think I do it far less often now, but I do admit I still catch myself on it sometimes.
Because, fellow humans, I get shit wrong.
So do you.
I get my dates confused (literally happened yesterday), I get the time/temperature on a baking creation not quite right (also yesterday), I misunderstand a homework assignment of my daughter’s (she’s in kindergarten, by the way, so I don’t have much of an excuse other than I wasn’t paying enough attention), and I am the first to admit I get money wrong, as careful as I try to be these days.
So October was hard. I got a lot of shit wrong.
I have, therefore, altered my personal goals for the month of November.
Goal number one: screw up.
Because if it’s a goal, it doesn’t feel like I failed. This month, I plan to screw up.
Goal number two: do something with it.
Because I still need to learn something from it, no matter how it feels.
Goal number three: stop apologizing so much.
Obviously, I know how to fall on my sword when I’m wrong, but I also acknowledge that I overdo it sometimes. One “I’m so sorry” is enough. There are more words worth the effort to say besides overwrought apologies.
So that’s where I am, lovely people. Comment below with your goals for the month (or the shit you get wrong).